In light of the holiday season I have been reflecting a lot on the wonderful things I have been blessed with throughout the years. I truly have been given plenty and often times I feel like I have received more than I possibly deserve. I have tried in recent times to be more giving of myself and serve those around me. I have found it a great way to form new relationships and strengthen old ones. Not to mention there is just a joy that comes from making other people’s day a little brighter.
However, I often wonder how much we appreciate what we are given. I don’t mean just a simple thank-you when we receive a gift or a service, but do we try to make whomever may have given to us of what they have feel like the time and effort they put into the gift is truly welcome. I know this is something I need to work on and I still have a long way to go before I get to where I would like to be. I have seen all to often that those who give are often shortly forgotten and pushed aside by the busy lives of those around them.
Take my friend for example. They have always been a giving person and enjoy making people happy. However, this often turns against them in some form or another. I have seen this friend date quite a few people who at first appeared like great people. But they always ended up the same, once they got all they came for, they are gone. Especially one douche who mooched my friend for a lot of money then said douche throw them out upon finding something better.
An example of how showing appreciation can brighten somebody’s mood and make them feel included. Going into the education field I have had to do Student Teaching, which is teaching in a classroom for free for a semester while still paying college tuition. I had a number of students who struggled in my class and often felt like it was hopeless to think they could do well. At first I wanted to kind of leave these students off to the side and take the attitude that if they want to succeed they need to put forth the effort.
Of course, I knew that this wasn’t the correct course of action to take. I decided instead to let them know their effort was appreciated and that it wasn’t for nothing. I would help them to be able to do the work and walk them through the steps necessary to some to the right answer and them congratulate them for their efforts. It was amazing to see the change in their attitudes. Showing that their efforts were acknowledged and congratulate them for putting forth their best work made them want to continue to try hard and earn that success they often felt they could never achieve.
So, while I know we all have very busy days, and often a million and one things are constantly running through our minds, I make the challenge that we try to show more appreciation for those amazing people in our lives. Let’s not forget the ones that are constantly making an effort to make our days brighter and our lives easier, the ones who stick with us through the good and the bad, and the ones who bring us out the pits we dig for ourselves. I know I appreciate all those people in my life who have done that, and try to show it everyday.
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