I have been debating whether or not to actually write this post. I have been wanting to do so, but I am not a big fan of talking about myself. Now those that are good friends with me may think differently, but I only boast to those who I know, and it is generally in a joking matter (it's kind of hard to explain).
Anywho, for the past little while there has been something that has been bothering me. the more I try to make sense of it, the more confused I become. I have noticed something quite intriguing that the girls I go out on dates with repeatedly say. Perhaps not word for word, but they all say more or less the same thing. Let me provide an example:
I knew this girl who was fun to spend time with. We were always joking around, laughing and just plain enjoying ourselves whenever we would run into each other on campus at BYU. I finally managed to land a couple of dates, and they were by far some of the best ones I have ever been on. After these two glorious dates, I asked her for a third, and this is where it all fell apart. She called me and proceeded to tell me that I was a great guy and she enjoyed spending time with me, but she wasn't interested in dating me.
Excuse me? I don't understand. I'm amazing? I make you happy? I should also add that at one point in time she had told me that I was funny and that she liked that about me. I have heard from countless ladies that I have met over the years that I am a great guy, thoughtful, kind, awesome, funny, among other great qualities. According to most girls' standards I am one the most eligible bachelors out there. Oh, and I will make a great husband someday (I hate that word by the way, someday, it doesn't exist). I also hear girls constantly talking about how they want a man with the same qualities. So, what's up? I am failing to see how this works. I have always known that the female mind is extremely complicated, not to mention next to impossible to understand, but this just seems beyond reason even for them.
Ladies, if you find a guy with these qualities you so long for, why not try to get to know him. As much as I hate to admit it, I have never been on more than three dates with any one girl. I find that usually after the first two, she becomes very disinterested. Attempts to maintain contact are useless, she falls completely off the grid and any attempts to locate her are wasted. If you want to find such a guy as I am, wouldn't it make sense to spend the time trying to get to know me and find out if I truly am the type of guy you are looking for? At least, that is I would do, in fact, that is what I do, or at least try to do.
Allow me to present some further evidence of this intriguing phenomenon. I have tried my hand at the whole online dating thing. match.com, eHarmony, etc. And I have found similar reactions from these lovely ladies as well. I do my part and make contact, trying to get to know them, explain how amazing I am while trying to not come across as conceded, but nothing. There are some that give one or two responses, but it rarely goes beyond that. I can understand in some part that they may not be attracted to me in a physical sense (I have another post in the works on this, so stay tuned), but let's give this at least somewhat of an effort.
According to the women I make contact with, at least what is put in their profiles, they are looking for someone who can make them laugh, loves to travel, knows what they want to do with themselves, wants a family, enjoys being active, knows how to get enjoyment out of life. Guess what ladies, I do all these things, I have all these qualities! I get to travel, I am pursuing my dream job, I have been told I am quite humorous by many a person, I would like to have a family; I exercise regularly, enjoy the great outdoors, etc and so forth. I would also like to mention, I have impeccable fashion sense, and can cook. I don't mean a bowl of cereal or Ramen; I mean I can cook real food. You name it I can cook it.
Despite all these amazing qualities, I remain single, without any prospects. Perhaps I am looking in the wrong places, but I highly doubt it. I do admit that I have my flaws; I am by no means perfect. However, I would think that my great qualities more than make up for it. Give a guy a chance, and he can make you laugh while talking you on the greatest adventure around the world. Well, that's all I have to say, except for a little note for the ladies, if you want a great guy who will make you the happiest girl in the world, let me know and maybe we can work something out.
